tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6195981924017233582.post7166748788383515314..comments2023-05-19T07:55:39.929-07:00Comments on Nanny Transitions: Dealing with the stages of Griefjust ghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10456912565215581708noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6195981924017233582.post-82700468076980794452018-04-07T06:48:26.643-07:002018-04-07T06:48:26.643-07:00Thank you. Let me know how I can support you. I al...Thank you. Let me know how I can support you. I also have a facebook page for Nanny Transitions.just ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10456912565215581708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6195981924017233582.post-38763134003890884082018-04-06T20:06:25.974-07:002018-04-06T20:06:25.974-07:00This article was just what I needed as I am prepar...This article was just what I needed as I am preparing to leave my nanny family of 4 years. I am so deeply sad, a sadness I’ve never felt before. I am honestly worried about it having a negative effect on my next position. It is comforting to know that I am not alone in feeling this way. I am so thankful for this site and all of the articles that have helped me feel less alone! Thank you! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05911423629206478654noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6195981924017233582.post-79224006357192733962015-04-17T22:58:19.738-07:002015-04-17T22:58:19.738-07:00Wow, I needed this now. I was a nanny for a family...Wow, I needed this now. I was a nanny for a family for 4 years. I saw the youngest two from birth to ages 2 and 4. I was with all 3 every day for all that time. The two older ones eventually went to school but the baby was still home with me. I knew my time was nearing an end and didn't look forward to it,but wanted to help transition her into school. Well, I got sick and was out a couple days,which had never happened, and they fired me. Through email, of all things. And never let me come say goodbye to the children. At first they made it seem like they would, but after a couple weeks of ignoring my requests to even FaceTime with them, I knew.... these people who I had grown to really care about, and the children whom I loved so much and so fiercely, we're gone. They had cut me out for no reason other than they didn't want to "confuse the kids". It was the most horrible situation of my life, and because I was dealing w a major health scare that precipitated them doing this, I easily spiraled into depression. It has been 3 months and I have been in therapy and am doing much better, but I grieve those children. It is such a loss of true love. My husband and I have been unable to have our own babies, so they brought so much joy to my life. And now it is gone. <br /><br />Reading your article made me feel better I am not the only one... This grief is normal. I lIke the quote you put about me maybe getting in the way of what they wanted or needed. I think maybe they really liked how well I cared for their children,but it exposed many of their own insecurities. They wanted something else yet chose not to end things nicely and humanly. That isn't my fault. But it is so hard to wrap my head around still....<br /><br />I will check out the books you mentioned. Thanks! Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00088826481014047794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6195981924017233582.post-87459520047390875322009-06-01T06:23:20.071-07:002009-06-01T06:23:20.071-07:00This is such a good way to look at the whole trans...This is such a good way to look at the whole transitioning process. And we have to remember as nannies that as we go through the 5 steps of loss, the family and kids are also going through those stages. Even if they made the choice to say good bye. <br /><br />Great post!Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16925807003764423512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6195981924017233582.post-62569911500504706352009-05-31T04:30:45.872-07:002009-05-31T04:30:45.872-07:00Regarding holding on to the hurt that may have bee...Regarding holding on to the hurt that may have been done to us,<br />I have found that this statement I once read in the Reader's Digest has helped me turn away from continually returning to my rage and indignation over such mistreatment: "Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die."<br /><br />Every time my thoughts and feelings return to the incident that upset me, I remind myself of that. Continuing to dwell on what they did or said is only hurting myself.<br /><br /> And to further help let go, I look to put myself in the other person's shoes for a moment and see why they acted that way. Not that they were right to treat me badly, but that they were stressed and hurting, or whatever, and it might be appropriate to forgive them for behaving inappropriately and wish them well. I've let my hurt or anger let me hurt people in the past, and I have to recognize that it's only human. If I can forgive myself, I can forgive them.<br /><br />I work on my reactions and feelings not to be virtuous, but because it helps me let go of that consuming pain and anger and get some peace.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6195981924017233582.post-50360187038685103502009-05-24T20:10:13.118-07:002009-05-24T20:10:13.118-07:00I think i am in the acceptance part now. I am sad ...I think i am in the acceptance part now. I am sad but ready. I am worried about the kids but hopeful they will be able to reach out when needed. I will to them and see them often. That was such a timely piece for me . Thanks :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com