Comments on Gentle Transitions: Dealing with the stages of Grief

This is such a good way to look at the whole trans...

2009-06-01T06:23:20.071-07:00

This is such a good way to look at the whole transitioning process. And we have to remember as nannies that as we go through the 5 steps of loss, the family and kids are also going through those stages. Even if they made the choice to say good bye.

Great post!

Regarding holding on to the hurt that may have bee...

2009-05-31T04:30:45.872-07:00

Regarding holding on to the hurt that may have been done to us,
I have found that this statement I once read in the Reader's Digest has helped me turn away from continually returning to my rage and indignation over such mistreatment: "Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die."

Every time my thoughts and feelings return to the incident that upset me, I remind myself of that. Continuing to dwell on what they did or said is only hurting myself.

And to further help let go, I look to put myself in the other person's shoes for a moment and see why they acted that way. Not that they were right to treat me badly, but that they were stressed and hurting, or whatever, and it might be appropriate to forgive them for behaving inappropriately and wish them well. I've let my hurt or anger let me hurt people in the past, and I have to recognize that it's only human. If I can forgive myself, I can forgive them.

I work on my reactions and feelings not to be virtuous, but because it helps me let go of that consuming pain and anger and get some peace.

I think i am in the acceptance part now. I am sad ...

2009-05-24T20:10:13.118-07:00

I think i am in the acceptance part now. I am sad but ready. I am worried about the kids but hopeful they will be able to reach out when needed. I will to them and see them often. That was such a timely piece for me . Thanks :)